Once upon a time, there was an active blog in this site. Sometimes irreverent, sometimes slightly naughty, sometimes intellectual, sometimes goofy, sometimes all of the above. Lately there’s been a whole lot of:
My prolonged absence has very little to do with anything Richard Armitage has or has not done…I recently watch Pilgrimage (meh) and LOVED Armitage’s voicing of Trevor Belmont in Castlevania. No, my absence has definitely been all about me. This space has been really important to me, and it continues to be, so I want to find a way to be present in it again – in whatever form it evolves into. In the spirit of disclosure I thought I might give you all the highlights reel of what’s been going on that’s been keeping me away.
Back tracking about a year….this time last year, I was having a blast in Greece with Guylty, jholland, Kathy, Claudia and Wydville…a Hellenic girls week. When I came home, I fell back into my regular routine both at work and at home, but changes were on the horizon. My Dean’s campaign to find me a full time, full benefit position at the university where I’d been an adjunct instructor for so long was about to bear fruit. In 2016 we hired a new President and about six months later, a new provost – and we were in for a bit of a ride. Our new administration has pursued an aggressive program of change in the past year – some of it better received than others, but so it goes with change. There were hints at a change in my position at the university in November of 2016, but the real kicker was an icy day in January when, due to a knee injury incurred just after Christmas, my meeting with the Provost became a phone meeting.
That phone call initiated a big change in my career path which ultimately resulted in my being offered and accepting a position as an Assistant Dean this past summer. The past six months has been a crazy journey. I really like my job, but most days I wonder what I’ve gotten myself into in terms of my insane workload. So, reason #1 that the blog has been rather quiet, my job has changed to the extent that my down time when not encroached on by home is pretty limited these days.
Never one to limit my challenges, in early March about a month or so after assuming my first job title change, I finally made the decision that my marriage was really over and relocated to my sister’s with my kids while we sorted out the details. My husband (we are not yet divorced) and I had been unhappy for a long time, and when we finally talked a couple weeks later, we agreed that to preserve some degree of affection for one another and for the sake of our younger child, we should acknowledge that our lives had gone in different directions and that we were no longer a couple and had not been for some time. Thus far, things have been relatively amicable. And so, Reason #2 – major life event.
Now, reason #3 is not really about me, but about my oldest child – you know, Showbiz Son. Well, it turns out that ShowBiz son is actually SuperGlam Daughter. She had come out to me as transgender about 18 months before, but my split from her father and our subsequent (albeit temporary) move from our family residence was the catalyst that allowed her to begin her outward transition. She is still a complicated soul, and transitioning is full of all sorts of unseen challenges for us all, but she seems ever so much happier in her own skin these days!
When I put it all down in writing, it seems pretty crazy. Yeah, it IS pretty crazy, but we’re all muddling through. The kids and I are back at home and their dad has his own place not far away. We’re on the way to establishing our “new normal” I think. Things have perhaps begun to settle into place a little bit in the new job and even if it is crazy, I’m determined that I really need to carve out a space in my day for blogging. I’m not entirely sure where I’ll go at the moment, but I hope you’ll decide to come along.
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